Happy New Year!!

I just wanted to say Happy New Year to everyone! Thank you so much for your prayers and support as we continue on this journey. We are hoping that we will have our children home with us by this time next year! Please be in prayer as we continue to raise money and work to get all our paperwork together.

I hope that each of you have a wonderful new year!

It happens

Tonight I was going to be headed up to MLJ Adoptions for a reception for the Director and Secretary of IHNFA. Unfortunately, they have had to rescheduled for January. It is ok because with all the snow we had last night they might have cancelled anyway. Thankfully, God knows what will happen before we do and He took care of it, so now we wait for January. I was a little disappointed, but I know that things are going to happen on this journey and that is ok. The reception being held in January is obviously for the better. Hopefully, there won't be any snow that night!

Also, DON'T FORGET.... you can buy tickets for our Adoption Benefit Concert. I know that with the holidays money is short and you can always buy them in January but tickets to this concert would make a GREAT gift! Not only could you have your Christmas shopping done, you would be helping us bring our babies home!! We look forward to meeting so many of you at the concert. Thanks for your support as we continue on our journey.

Christmas Traditions Part 1

I have been reading up on several adoption blogs and have come across some pretty great families. Everyone is working so hard to raise money to bring their children home. It just doesn't seem fair that it costs so much. There are so many people in this world who want to adopt but money always stands in the way. I pray everyday that God will supply the money these families need. If you have an adoption blog, I would love to read it. Just post it in the comment section or email it to me at thejourneyhome.todd@gmail.com.

Christmas is coming! I LOVE Christmas. It really is the most wonderful time of the year. When I was growing up, it was the only time that I saw my entire family in one day. Grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles. It was the greatest day of the year. We had the best traditions when I was growing up and I want my kids to grow up with Christmas traditions as well.

When I was a kid, we would wake up early and open our presents. Santa had been there and we couldn't wait to see what he brought. I will admit I wasn't very fond of Santa. My mom said I would cry because I didn't want Santa to come in my room to look at me when he dropped off the presents. I am not sure what kind of creeper I thought Santa was but my Mom promised that Santa would just leave the presents at the door and Mom and Dad would bring them inside. Years later I found out Mom and Dad would be shoving presents under the couch that they were wrapping at 2 am when I would come in crying. I don't know why my parents kept up the Santa story when they knew it scared me, but they did. Aw, memories!

After we opened presents at our house we would go to my Dad's parents' house. Funny, Santa delivered presents there too. As a matter of fact he was still delivering presents there when I was 16, but hey, who is going to turn away presents no matter who they are from!?!?

My Grandma and Grandpa's house is where I got my first bike. It was so great. It was pink and had streamers on the handles and had Sea Princess written on it. I even had a plastic basket with plastic flowers to carry home groceries from Thriftway. It is also where we got fudge. My Grandma was an amazing baker! She could make cakes, pies, cookies, fudge...whatever you want. Every year she made the most amazing peanut butter and chocolate fudge. It was the kind that would melt in your mouth!

Both of my Dad's parents have passed away but I will never forget my Christmas' with them. I wish they could have known my children and my children had known them. They would have loved them. We still have Christmas with my parent's, Uncle Rick and my brother and his family but I will forever miss the look on my Grandpa's face while he watched his grandkids open their presents. It was pure joy. I see that look on my Dad's face now while he watches his grandkids.

Christmas didn't end at my Grandparent's house it kept going, but that is a story for another day. I would love to hear your traditions. Is there something special you do with your family every year? Are you starting new traditions?

Mary

None of us know what the future holds, but we do know that whatever is forthcoming will require living in faith. ~Elizabeth George

I have recently begun a journey through the devotional "Nurturing a Heart of Humility" by Elizabeth George. This particular study is about Mary the mother of Jesus. I originally picked up this study because I thought, "Lord, I need more humility in my life." I know we all have our prideful moments and God has definitely been teaching me about humility but He has taught me more than I ever thought He would.

Sometimes we have a way of saying, "I know this needs to be fixed, so Lord, through this Bible study I give you permission to fix it." When in reality He says, "There is something we need to work through instead, but I will use what you "think" you need to show you what you REALLY need." I guess that was my first lesson in humility! ;-)

The thing that has struck me the most about Mary through this study is her obedience. When the angel came to her and told her she would be with child, she asked "How shall this be, seeing I know not a man?" I don't think she questioned that it would happen she just didn't understand how it would happen. After she was told the Holy Spirit would come upon her she said, "be it unto me according to thy word."

Now, I don't know about you, but if an angel showed up (1) to tell me I was pregnant (2) when I had never known a man (3) I may have asked for a sign. I think this really shows the maturity of this young girl. She was 14 or 15 years old yet she show the maturity of an old saint. How I desire to have that kind of faith. Everywhere we read about Mary in the first 2 chapters of Luke she is obey quickly and without question or complaining. When Joseph said, "We're moving to Egypt." They went. Immediate obedience. I think that if Mary had complained or not believed she would not have been Jesus' mother. I think it is funny that Mary didn't have to "pray about" becoming the mother of the Messiah. She knew what she had been called to do and she did it.

God had called Mary to what seemed impossible, but He knew that she had the faith that would be required to raise His Son. 33 1/2 years later she would watch as her Son hung on the cross for the sins of those who had spit in His face and beat him beyond recognition. How she must have felt that day will have to wait for another blog posting. The point is she did the work of the Lord knowing what the end result would be. She was an educated woman. She knew the Scriptures. She knew what would happen to the Messiah and she knew her baby was this Messiah.

Blind faith. That is all you can call it. I wonder everyday if I have what it takes to follow through on this journey of adoption that God has called us to. Like Mary, I can say "How can this be, when we don't have $45,000 to pay for it." I can believe in the promise that it WILL happen. I can say "be it unto me according to thy word." I don't know what will happen, but I pray that I have the faith of Mary to live whatever lies ahead of me.

An Amazing Opportunity

We have been presented with an amazing opportunity this week. Our adoption agency, MLJ Adoptions in Indianapolis, is having a meeting with the Director and Secretary General of IHNFA which is the Intituto Hondureno de la Ninez y la Familia. Anyone who is interested in adopting from Honduras is invited to come on December 16th at 7:00 pm. Scott and I will be there and we would love for you to come with us.

I am so excited about this opportunity! I love when God is working but you don't quite know what He is up to. I can't wait to find out!! Please pray that God will open the doors to make this adoption a smooth process and we will find out more concerning our adoption.

Christmas Gifts

T-Shirts make EXCELLENT Christmas Gifts!

These shirts are perfect for anyone and it educates people about the need of adoption.

PLUS, all proceeds go to the Todd Adoption Fund!!

It is a win/win anyway you look at it!

T-shirts can be ordered by clicking on the right hand side of the blog. Don't wait because we will be placing an order soon.

All t-shirts are black with red and white writing. Women's t-shirts are 100% cotton.

Gift wrapping and shipping available for FREE!! Just include the mailing address.

My Landmark Family

This weekend I attended the funeral of an old friend. He was 38 years old, married and had 2 kids. He was the type of guy that knew everyone and made everyone feel like they were his best friend. He just had that type of personality.

Last I heard there were over 800 people that attended his viewing and funeral. He had recently gotten his 1000th friend on Facebook and I guarantee he knew every single person, most of them were probably at the funeral. He was loved by so many. That was evident. All you had to do was look around. Every single one of us had a story to tell.

There were 2 things I learned at the funeral yesterday. 1. I don't have enough pictures of my family. 2. I want to love people where they are. I don't want to take my relationships for granted. There were so many people at the funeral that I had not seen in over 15 years. People I didn't recognize and those that didn't recognize me. People who have been a huge part of my life yet I never took the time to tell them.

If nothing else, Darrin's death brought us all back to the place we began this journey. The kind of place where time stands still. The place where we pick right up as if we had never left. There is a bond that holds us together. A bond that has kept us together through the years. We may even bleed blue and gold. Who knows?!

So, even though I don't make it home much these days, and even though we have all grown up and have lives and families of our own, I love you all. You all have made an impression on my life in one way or another. Let's not wait so long to get together next time.

Concert!!!

The Ascension Quartet

Saturday, January 15, 2011

6:30 pm

Hope's Point Baptist Church

1703 Miller Avenue

Shelbyville, IN 46176

Tickets are $10 each. Children 5 and under are free.

Tickets can be purchased on the right hand side of this blog.

Call 317-512-5600 or email thejourneyhome.todd@gmail.com for more information.

All proceeds will go to the Todd Adoption Fund.

God is Still Working

Last week we received an email from a family that wanted to give $500 to our adoption fund. I am super excited that God keeps providing. He continues to confirm that what we are doing is right. It does my heart good to know that I am in the center of God's will.

Yesterday, we were approved by our agency for the country of Honduras and siblings. I am really excited because I now feel that we have a few things set. It was really exciting to receive our approval letter. I can't wait to see what else God has in store.

Make sure you check in tomorrow!

It will be Worth It

I have been sitting here with all this paperwork trying to figure out how in the world I am going to get it all filled out! There is paperwork for the agency, for grant organizations and for the government. When you look at it all it can be very overwhelming. BUT I have my handy dandy notebook divided into categories and I think I may be as organized as ever!

Scott was signing papers the other day and asked if we would own a house when it was all over! I wish! The paper trail can be overwhelming but the end result will be worth it all. When I hold my 2 new precious children in my arms I will no doubt be ready to start again (Sorry if that makes you nervous babe!) What's a little paperwork when so many children need a loving home?

The other part of adoption that can be overwhelming is the financial. I have tried not to worry about that one too much. I know that money is what keeps so many people from adopting. I have heard over and over again "I would adopt if it didn't cost so much." In all honesty I don't know why it costs so much. You would think people would want children to be placed in loving homes and would do whatever they could to make that happen. Instead WE (adoptive parents) are the ones that have to do whatever it takes to make it happen. But, I'll say it again, it will be worth it.

If you have ever considered adopting, don't let anything keep you from doing so. Money can be raised. Paperwork filled out. You just have to have this deep burning in your heart to keep you going day after day. When you see the little face of the one God has chosen for you, you to will say "It was worth it."

Choosing a Country

I don't think choosing a country was hard. The hard part was finding a country that we felt could move quickly and meet our family needs at this time. We had narrowed it down to Honduras and Nicaragua. We chose these two because they are closer, Scott can speak the language and we have friends in both countries. They both have their pros and cons but in the end I wanted the opinion of our agency worker.

In all honesty, I was set to go to Nicaragua even with their 8 week stay. We figured we would take the little man and live there until the adoption was complete. 8 weeks is a long time to be away from home and it just sort of bothered me. We have friends in Nicaragua so we were hoping we would be able to be near them.

In the end we chose Honduras. The agency worker believes that this country will move quicker. She does fear that our being so specific on age and gender could make our wait longer but we know that God is in control and He knows exactly what we need. I know that with any adoption flexibility is key. However, I want my little man to remain the oldest. This is very important to me. I also want a boy and a girl. I know that God knows my heart but I know that if it is not His will for me to have the children I specifically asked for it is ok. He is God and He knows best and I will count on that.

Time to Prioritize

I have been thinking lately about how my life will change when we add 2 more children to our family. I know that I cannot even begin to realize the difference, but change is coming ready or not. This change won't just affect me but it will affect Scott, our dog and especially my little man. He will suddenly have to share Mommy and Daddy with two new people.

My little man is used to being the center of attention. What only child isn't? We get to do so many fun things now that there are only three of us. It isn't that we won't get to do fun things later, they will just be different and cheaper! I cherish the time I have with that little guy because I know it won't last forever.

I have always worried about having more children. I wonder if I can love them as much as I love my little man. It seems that my heart is so full all ready that I think it will burst when the other 2 come home. Other mothers tell me I have nothing to worry about. That my love will just expand. I am thankful that love has no limit. I am thankful that love just keeps growing. At least I plan on it because we don't plan to stop after we adopt these two!

In all my thinking I have realized that it is time to prioritize our life. Time to write down the goals we have for our family and our kids. Time to discard of some things and either replace them with others or remove them all together. I guess that means learning to say no. I am not very good at that because I never want to say no to anyone. I like being busy all the time, but being busy takes away from my first job: being a wife and mother. I have to learn to say no even to the things I want to do. It isn't that the things I do are bad, they just don't seem to be helping us reach our goals. I guess it is like a church. You can have so many programs and they aren't bad, but are they really helping you reach the ultimate goal? (insert soapbox!)

Over the next few weeks things will be changing in the Todd household. The change may be tough but it will be so worth it when we bring our other 2 home and we are able to focus on all 3 little lives God has placed in our care. So please, don't be offended if we tell you no. We just have to do what is best for our family at the time. It is no reflection of you or what you ask. We just have to make our family a priority because that is what God has called us to do.

Fundraising

Fundraising seems like it should be a dirty word. However, when it comes to adoption there is just no way to get around it. Unless you win the lottery, have been saving for years or someone gives you a large inheritance, the kind of money that is required of an adoption is almost nonexistent.

Coming up with fundraising ideas is even harder. You have the old stand-bys of bake sales and car washes, but cars can only get so clean and people can only eat so many cookies. Finding a fundraiser that is more community focused rather than church family focused can be difficult as well. Your church family, no matter how much they want to help can only give so much. I have really tried to come up with other ideas because I don't want people to run the opposite direction every time they see me coming!

We did the Chili Dinner and Silent Auction and had great success. It was a lot of fun to watch people bid against each other to win the prize they wanted! People were so generous and I would never want to take advantage of that. I am so thankful for the people that God has used so far on our journey.

While searching for ideas I have come up with a few:

1. I am working as a Premier Designs Jeweler. I am donating 20% of my sales from now until the end of the year to the Adoption Fund. If you are interested in scheduling a jewelry show, catalog show or are interested in becoming a jeweler then please email me at thejourneyhome.todd@gmail.com.

2. We are having a concert!! The Ascension Quartet from Lebanon, Missouri, will be doing a benefit concert on Saturday, January 15th at 6:30 pm. The concert will be held at Hope's Point Baptist Church in Shelbyville, Indiana. Tickets are $10.00 each and will go on sale November 21st. You will be able to purchase tickets on this blog. You can also email me for more information at thejourneyhome.todd@gmail.com.

3. We will be having a Craft Show in March. If you would like to purchase a spot, you can email me at thejourneyhome.todd@gmail.com. Date and time have yet to be determined.

I would love to hear other ideas for fundraisers. If you have done something unique in the past let me know! Those of us who are raising money for adoption are ALWAYS looking for new ideas.

Thank You Jesus

"That you Jesus for the brother and sister that I am going to get." ~Trent

I really don't know what to say about yesterday except "Thank you Jesus." Yesterday morning in the service we focused on orphans. Pastor announced that we would be having Orphan Sunday every year from now on. He also wanted an Orphan Ministry formed in our church. Scott and I were so surprised. We had no idea that Pastor had made these decisions. I am so excited to see how God is going to take care of the orphans in our community and around the world through our people. I am so excited about what the future holds. I bet you can't guess who is going to be heading up this new ministry!!!

The service was amazing. God really moved in the hearts of so many. People are all ready talking about becoming foster parents and learning about what they can do to help the orphans. I truly believe that God broke hearts yesterday. People are beginning to get it! They see a need and they want to fill it. That just makes my heart jump for joy!

I must admit that Satan worked overtime yesterday. He has been working in people's lives to cause division and question our motives. There has been a lot of negativity and I must admit I was blindsided. It really hurt me to know that people we thought were our friends were badmouthing us. God has called us to do this and they don't have to understand, but they DO need to understand that we are going to do what God has called us to do with or without them. I have had so many emotions run through my heart in the last 24 hours concerning this matter and I could go on and on, but I will end with this...Satan is going to do whatever he can to keep people from doing God's will. Satan uses Christians because they are often the easiest to be used in causing destruction. Don't allow Satan to use you to disrupt the plan that God has clearly set out for someone else.

Last night was amazing. We ran out of seats and tables. We had 53 items to auction off. Empty Tomb sang and testimonies were given. Scott was really able to share our heart for orphans in our country and all over the world. I hope that people truly saw our heart and will change their original opinions. We had so much help and food that I wanted to cry with happiness. People just stepped in and took care of every little thing that needed to be done. God's love soared through our church without any hindrances.

Our goal last night was not just to raise money, but to educate people about the need for foster and adoptive parents. Not only do we need these types of parents but we need others to come along side of those and support them. Those parents need encouragement. We need people to rise up and believe that these children have suffered long enough. Scott made a great point last night. Not only are we taking care of orphans but we are taking care of souls. We are teaching these children about Jesus. That is more important than any fundraiser we will ever have.

Please pray for us as our journey continues. Please pray for our church as they walk this new journey. Pray that God will open the hearts of the people. That we will step out of our comfort zone and experience God's love fresh and anew. Pray as we lead our AWESOME people.

I believe that God answered the skeptics and critics last night. Between last week and last night, God provided over $2000 toward our adoption fund. He confirmed in my heart, yet AGAIN, that this is what we are supposed to be doing. What an amazing God! Thank you Jesus!

Tomorrow!

I spent the last 3 days in Missouri at Baptist Bible College. It was so great to see what the Lord is doing there. I can honestly say the Spirit on campus is something I have never experienced before. I loved sitting in class listening to the hearts of the soon to be teachers. They love Jesus so much and want Him to shine in their classroom. It has been amazing to see the change that has taken place there. God is really doing something BIG and I can't wait to see what it is.

We got back late last night. It was so nice to be back in my own bed. I don't really miss dorm life! I did notice that every year the Youth Pastors get younger and Scott and I are getting older. I didn't think that was supposed to happen yet! I haven't been out of college that long! Only 10 years! Oh well!

Tomorrow is the BIG day. I am really excited about it. I have been working to get things ready and I really hope we are able to bring in the money we need. I am just going to leave it at the feet of Jesus and walk away. I hope to see many of you there!

He Supplies My Needs

The last couple of weeks have been a whirlwind of activity concerning our Chili Dinner and Silent Auction. I wasn't really sure when I could talk about this, but I guess now is as good a time as any!

I had really been struggling with the amount of money we need to complete this adoption. $30,000 is a TON of money! I know this is what God wants us to do and I know He will supply our needs. I think I know this in my head and it is the "christian" response, but I don't know that I truly believed it in my heart.

My Father owns the cattle on a thousand hills. $30,000 is nothing to Him. One night I was praying, "God, YOU PROMISED you would supply all our needs. YOU PROMISED!" The next night we were in a car accident. Um, how does having to buy a new car help us in our adoption journey? How does it supply our need? Well, the money we received was enough to buy a used van AND pay off our remaining credit card balance. Paying off our debt was something we felt needed to be done. Now I can happily say all we have left are our student loans. God supplied in the craziest way!

A month or so later a friend came up to me and told me the Lord had really been blessing her financially and she wanted to help out our fund. She wrote us a check for $500!! I pray the Lord just blesses her socks off for helping us out! He supplied again!!

Last week, my husband handed me a card. Someone had given it to him before the service. I had no idea what it was, but inside was another $500 check! I was told later that they truly felt impressed of God to help us out. I was amazed! I just cried because look...God supplied again!

This past week our van broke down. Thankfully we had some money set aside so we would be able to pay for the repairs. A few days later we got our van back, fixed and ready to go. When we went to pay we were told that a third party had anonymously paid for the repairs and wanted it to be an adoption gift. How awesome is that?!?!? God supplied our needs.

I am so thankful that I can look back over the last few months and really see God's hand in all of this. He has made it clear that He wants us to adopt again. There is no doubt in my mind that He will supply every penny that we need to make this happen. I know that He is working on people's hearts and that just thrills me! I pray that He will uniquely bless those who allow Him to use them in our adoption journey. I am so thankful that people's hearts are open to His plan.

Feeling Nervous

I have been working on getting everything together for our Chili Dinner and Silent Auction that happens a week from Sunday. If you didn't know, we are raising money for our Adoption Fund. The Dinner and Auction will be held on Sunday, November 7th at 6:00 pm. All the proceeds will go into our adoption fund. If you would like to donate an item to the auction or would like more information you can email me at thejourneyhome.todd@gmail.com. You can also make a donation by clicking the donation button at the right.

With the auction being a week away, I am going over everything. Checking the items we have for auction, making sure we have enough food and praying. Praying that we will raise around $3000. That is a HUGE chunk of change. But that is the amount we need to make our first payment to the agency to get this started. I know that God will provide but for some reason I still feel a little nervous.

I don't think my nervousness comes from raising the money. I just want everyone to really have a good time. I want people to really see our heart. I want them to catch our vision. I am praying that maybe, just maybe, others will decide to walk this wonderful journey called Adoption. I want people's hearts to be open. I want them to see that it is possible to love children that are not your own as your own. To make them their own and grow their own families.

I don't know what God has in store for that night but I do believe it is bigger than I could ever dream. He knows that there are children in this world that belong in families right here in our church. He knows the details and I can't wait to watch Him work.

"There will always be an element of uncertainty. Generally speaking, you are probably never going to be more than 80% certain. Waiting for greater certainty may cause you to miss an opportunity." -Andy Stanley

I came across this quote today on some one's Facebook page and I found it interesting. There has been a lot of struggle going on in my life and for some reason this little quote gave me a little hope.

My struggles do not only come in the form of this adoption journey, but in relationships, doing God's will and finding my purpose. I have never been one of those that had to be 100% sure. If it looked good, then I was on my way. I always have about a billion ideas going on at once but that is where it stops. So many times they don't go past ideas. I know it drives people crazy because I am always changing my mind about what I want to do that day or week or month, but I have found that staying the same gets boring. I have also found fear.

Most of the time my dreams never become reality because I am to afraid to take that monumental step. You know, the one step that takes you from ordinary to extraordinary. The one that takes you from disobedience to obedience. I have to wonder how many opportunities have I missed because of uncertainty or fear. How different would my life be if I cared more about what God said then what man said?

Doing what God wants is SCARY. Half the time it doesn't even make sense. People can be very vocal when their opinion goes against what you feel called to do. I guess I may only have 80% certainty about what I am doing, but I need to have 100% certainty that God knows what He is doing. After all, it is HIS plan, not mine.

Yusuph

Scott and I went to Atlanta for the Catalyst Conference a few weeks ago. Every speaker was amazing and their messages really spoke to my heart in many ways. The person who struck me the most was Francis Chan.

Francis Chan used to pastor in California. You may know him as the author of Crazy Love and Forgotten God. Francis and his wife decided that God had something much bigger for them. They left their church and were getting ready to go to India about a week after the conference. They sold their house, packed their kids and were on their way. They didn't know how long they would be there but they knew they needed to go.

Never in my life have I seen such a giving person. He is so passionate about serving God. He wants his life to seamlessly fit into the Bible. The Bible doesn't say "and the church formed a committee to discuss the remolding project." It says "prayer was made without ceasing of the church unto God for him (Peter)." The people were praying for Peter's release and an angel came and released him. When he showed up, the people couldn't believe God had answered their prayer. Sometime we pray without really expecting God to answer. That is CRAZY!! Crazy things happen when God is working. I mean, who sends a whale to swallow someone to get His point across?

In all honesty, when Francis Chan finished preaching you just thought, "Man, I don't love God like I should." I want CRAZY things to happen. I want God working in my life. I want people to think, "What they are doing just doesn't make sense." It doesn't have to make sense to you, only to God. There is nothing boring about the God I serve.

After that message the Lord really impressed upon my heart to do more in giving to Missions. Compassion International was in attendance and they were looking for people to sponsor children in other parts of the world. They were asking people to raise their hands and pray about sponsoring a child. I sat in total quiet while God impressed on my heart that this was something we needed to do. I prayed that God would impress the same thing on Scott's heart if this was something He wanted.

When we got back to the hotel, Scott and I talked about our desire to do more for missions and the idea of sponsoring a child. We both agreed this was something we needed to do. We thought it would be really neat to sponsor a 4 year old boy that our little man could "grow up with". They will be able to write letters to each other and I hope one day they will be able to meet each other. We plan for each one of our children to have a child to"grow up with" through Compassion International.

The next day we went to find our new little boy. I love how God works, because little Yusuph was right on top of the stack. He is a couple of months older than Trent but I pray that they will become the best of friends. I realized later that Yusuph lives in an AIDS infected area and needed immediate sponsorship. Isn't it just like God to take care of things? Yusuph lives in Tanzania and we are so excited to get to know him.

When we came home we showed our little man Yusuph's picture. He didn't understand why Yusuph couldn't come live with us. He asked, "Is that my new brother?" I said, "Yes." I love my little man's sweet spirit.

I don't know if you have ever thought of sponsoring a child. It is only $38 a month. There are many children who need to be sponsored. I hope that you will consider what CRAZY thing God would have you do. I can't wait to hear the story of your new "little one". Check out www.compassion.com for more information.

He Directs My Steps

"The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord; and he delighteth in his way." Psalms 37:23

When Scott and I first began our adoption journey, we had many discussions about God's plan for our life. We wondered why this was the path He had put us on. We wondered why He did not allow us biological children. We questioned why having children in our home was taking so long. It was so frustrating at times. I wondered what was wrong with me. Scott and I had done everything "right" yet we felt like in some way we were being punished. We just wanted to be parents and we really didn't care how that happened.

Many times people would comment about why we did not have biological children and that it was so nice of us to adopt children since we "couldn't have our own." That used to make me so mad! Adoption is huge in my family. My cousin is adopted all though I don't remember which one. When we were growing up we were all grandkids of the same grandparents. No one was treated differently because they were adopted or biological. No one in our family was ever Plan B.

God never has a Plan B. He has a plan for our lives before we are conceived in our Mother's womb. He knew before I was born that there would be a little boy in Indiana who needed a Mommy and that would be me! He knew I would struggle. He knew I would lose 2 children in order to gain the one I have now and the many more to come. He knew every tear I would cry. He knew that we would have to leave Florida and move to Indiana to adopt our first son. HE had a plan. He has a plan for my little man. What an amazing God!!!

Adoption was never Plan B for our life. Adoption was THE plan for our family. The rest of the world may look at these children as useless or burdans of society. I look at them as children who need hope and love. God has a plan for them. They may be orphans today because they will be your child tomorrow. I can't imagine what God has planned for the lives of my children, but I am so excited to be a part of it. I think of all I could miss out on if I had said no to adoption. I get to be a part of the plan that God has for these children. How cool is that? Wow! He has ordered our steps to come together and and I GET to delight in them!

Why We are Adopting- Part 3

In late June 2007, we received a phone call about a little 10 month old baby boy that was pre-adoptive. We said that we were interested in meeting this little guy and arranged everything with his foster mother. We did not know what to expect. We were told this little guy had tested positive for cocaine when he was born and that the grandmother already had his older sister and did not want to raise another child. That is why he was already pre-adoptive.

I will never forget pulling into the driveway and praying that the Lord would show us what to do. I was so scared. Walking through that door was about to change my life forever and I didn't know if that was a good or bad thing.

Meeting that little boy was like walking into heaven. He was so precious and little. He loved to play and he has this giggle that still to this day cracks me up when he really gets tickled. We spoke with the foster mom and told her we definitely wanted this child. She told us she felt that we belonged together and would call the social worker after we left. We were going to have a son! When we left I asked Scott what he thought and he said, "He has a big head!" He sure did! Our little Charlie Brown boy changed our life!

Fast forward almost 2 years to November 2008. We stood in a courtroom pledging to forever be our little man's parents. That we would love him and care for him as if I had given birth to him. That he would forever be a Todd. Funny thing is he was a Todd the first day we met him, the judge just had to make it legal.

We had a wonderful adoption experience. There were days that were long and I wondered how much longer it would be before he was officially a Todd. It had its ups and downs but that is just part of it. Focusing on the ultimate goal, adoption, was what kept me going.

The adoption of our son reminds me of my adoption into God's family. I am so thankful that He adopted me and became my Heavenly Father when I was an orphan in this world. He showed me love and life. He has kept me safe and has corrected me. He has never turned me away. I am His! No one can ever take me away from Him, just like no one can ever take our little man away from us.

I can list all kinds of statistics about adoption and I can tell you what the scripture tells us to do, but until adoption touches your life in the most unbelievable way it is hard to understand. Until the Father, Himself, speaks to your heart and tells you He wants you to be part of something bigger than yourself you may look at me with crazy eyes! ;-) But you know what? He does want you to be part of something bigger than yourself!

I don't believe God has called us all to adopt, but He HAS called us to all do SOMETHING. It may be to pray for someone who is on this journey. It may be to financially support someone or help with fundraisers. Whatever it is, you have been called.

So why are we adopting? There are two reasons. Number 1. God has adopted me into His family and I am able to show His love by doing the same. Number 2. I think my heart would break in two if I never adopted again. I don't think I could go on knowing I would never again experience the journey of adoption. It is who I am. It is how I live. It is my purpose.

Why We are Adopting-Part 2

You don't become an adoptive parent by chance. Every adoptive parent I have ever met has had a journey. You come to a place in your life and you just know it is something you have to do. Then you look back and realize how God has ordered your steps.

Several months after the loss of our first child, we moved to Indiana. We decided to look into adoption again. I really didn't know if I wanted to get pregnant again because I did not want to go through the heartache I had recently experienced. Again nothing was really working out and once again I found myself pregnant. I was so apprehensive and nervous. I was doing my best to trust God every step of the way, even if HE decided to take this baby home to be with Him.

At six weeks I miscarried. My heart was broken. I truly did not understand why God was allowing all this to happen. We had been told we would not be able to have children, then we got pregnant TWICE and both times the Lord saw fit to take them to Heaven. This was not what I signed up for.

Finally in 2006, a family in our church felt God calling them to be foster parents. They asked us if we would be willing to take the classes and become foster parents with them. In all honesty, if they had not asked us we might still be childless. Scott struggled with the idea of having children that were not his flesh and blood. The idea of having our very first child not be "biological" was very hard for him. I honestly believed he agreed to take the class because he couldn't stand to see my tears.

Scott watched me struggle through every Mother's Day. To me Father's Day was worse because I felt that I was failing my own husband. He held me while I cried and begged God for a child. He walked with me through the grief and pain of losing our children. He was so wonderful and supportive and I believe he struggled in silence more than I will ever know.

After taking the foster care classes and doing our home study we were licensed. God had brought us to a wonderful agency and we waited. Then the phone began to ring. We were very specific in what we felt we could handle. We wanted younger children who were pre-adoptive. This meant these children would be available for adoption or were ready to be adopted. I did not want my home to be a revolving door for children. My heart just couldn't handle it. We said no to so many children. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but God was saving the perfect child for us.

There are more than 500,000 children in foster care in North America. Almost 145,000 are available for adoption. Last year 29,471 children turned 18 and left the foster care system without an adoptive family. (Dave Thomas Foundation) In 2008, there were 11,401 children in the foster care system in INDIANA. Only 1,183 were adopted.(http://www.childrensdefense.org/)

The Bible COMMANDS us as Christians to care for the fatherless and the orphans. If that isn't a good enough reason for you, I bet I can come up with 145,000 more.

Why We are Adopting - Part 1

Most people do not know our story of adoption. People know we want to adopt but they have never heard why or how we even got here. I thought today might be a good day to begin sharing that information.

Last night my little man was sick and up until about 3 am. While I sat with him and rubbed his little head, I thought about my other babies that are to come. And the nights that I will sit and rub their heads while they try to go back to sleep. I realized that even though I did not give birth to this child, I am his mother. I think I always knew that, but the Lord really reveled it to me in a sweet way. I am the one who stays up with him til 3 am when he is sick. I am the one who cheers him on when he is going the wrong way on the soccer field. He is my baby boy and no one can ever take that away from me. :-)

When Scott and I are were starting out (2000) we were told that we probably would not be able to have children. I think for awhile we were ok with that. Adoption was a part of both of our families. We had planned to adopt we just didn't realize it would come so soon.

After a couple of years of married bliss, we decided we wanted a family. We looked into adoption and foster care but nothing was really working out. Imagine my surprise when I found out I was pregnant! It was June 2004, and I decided to tell Scott by giving him a Father's Day card. Problem was I couldn't wait until Father's Day! We were so happy. Our church family was so happy. We couldn't believe the Lord had decided to bless us with a child.

I began to show pretty quickly and was in maternity clothes by about 9 weeks. I could out eat any guy so that probably had something to do with it! By week 10 something was wrong. I went in for an ultrasound and the ultrasound tech told me the baby was only about 6 weeks in size. I told him that couldn't be. I was 10 weeks along. He flat out told me I would probably miscarry that week. WOW!! I couldn't believe he felt his was his place to be so rude and unkind and hurtful.

The next week we went to the dr and she had another ultrasound done. This ultrasound tech was so sweet and kind. She couldn't tell me anything but I knew in my heart something wasn't right. That Friday, the dr called and told us that I had a blighted ovum. The sac had never attached itself and even though I grew like I was pregnant the baby had stopped growing and had died. I choose to wait for my body to miscarry on its own.

Right after we hung up with the doctor, I cried and cried. The phone rang again and it was one of Scott's friends from growing up. He and his wife were in town and wanted to know if we wanted to get together. Scott told them what had just happened and we decided to go with them. We needed to get out of the house. The Lord knew we would need our friends and I am so thankful He sent them along. I think I survived that night because they were there.

The next week my mom came and nothing happened. We dropped her off at the airport to go home and we picked up my brother. About an hour after we arrived home we sped off for the hospital. I can't describe to you what I went through because it is so graphic. But I do know the peace of the Lord filled my soul. We decided to name our precious little one Rylee. It was a name I had chosen years ago and because we did not know the gender it fit perfectly.

Scott went to the waiting room to check on my brother. While he was gone, I began to sing.

When peace like a river attendeth my way,

When sorrows like sea billows roll.

Whatever my lot, thou hast taught me to say,

It is well, it is well with my soul.

It is well, with my soul.

It is well, IT IS WELL with my soul!

At that moment. I knew God's perfect peace. His peace really does pass all understanding. I can't sing that song without thinking about my babies that are in heaven. I know they are in the presence of Jesus safe and secure. I don't know why we were allowed to climb that mountain only to roll down it, but God had a plan. In a small way, we did figure it out later.

I did find out later that my brother had been on the phone with an old school friend. He didn't know it at the time, but she was pregnant as well. He was sharing with her what was happening and she told me later that she couldn't imagine what I was going through. We were due around the same time. A few years later, my brother married that friend. I have a beautiful niece named Mady. She was born 2 days after I was due with Rylee. I must admit, I can't help but look at her and wonder what those two would be up to if Rylee was here. On December 9th, my brother will officially adopt Mady. It will be the 2nd time we have gone to court to make an adoption final in this family! I am so excited I can hardly stand it!!

Well, I have gone on long enough. I guess you will have to come back tomorrow to read Part 2 of this journey.

National Blog Action Day

I had a totally different topic to write about today until I came across this: http://stuffchristianslike.net. The blog that was written today by Jon Acuff is the one I want you to read. He has challenged all of us to purchase one malaria net that will help save one life. 100% of your donation will go directly to the purchase of the net and you will receive the GPS coordinates of where your net(s) are located. How cool is that? You will know exactly where you are helping! You will be able to pray specifically for that person. How awesome would it be to meet that person in Heaven?

Now that I have asked you to participate in John Acuff's challenge for today, I would like to issue another one. PLEASE be in prayer for us as we walk this adoption road. Please consider adoption for your own family. There are so many children in this world who need parents. If you do not feel adoption is for you then find a family or agency that you can support so there will be one less orphan in this world.

Super Excited!

I am really excited about our first really BIG fundraiser! We have been selling t-shirts and have had great success. You can still buy t-shirts right here on the blog. The information is located on the right hand side.

On November 7th at 6:00 pm we will be having a Chili Dinner and Silent Auction. The dinner and auction will be held at Hope's Point Baptist Church at 1703 S. Miller Ave in Shelbyville, Indiana. We are hoping to raise at least $1600 in order to complete our homestudy, but overall we would like to raise $3000.

I have been overwhelmed with the response of our family and friends who have offered to supply chili, crackers, cheese, sour cream, drinks and desserts to feed all those who will be in attendance. I have also been overwhelmed with donations for the Silent Auction. People have just been amazing! I am so excited to share with you the donations we have received so far.

Baby items

Mary Kay items

Handmade Jewelry

Professional Hair Care Basket

Professional Photo framed and matted

Chick-Fil-A Basket

Premier Designs Jewelry items

Wilton Cake Decorating Supplies Basket

Christmas Tree Skirts

Professional Photo Package

BeautiControl items

Starbucks Gift Basket

Creative Memories items

While we have many donations, we can always use more. If you would like to donate something to be auctioned off or would like to donate food for the Chili Dinner, please email me at thejourneyhome.todd@gmail.com

The Biggest Struggle

Last night was quite eventful. After working (which I LOVE my two jobs, teaching cake decorating and selling Premier Designs Jewelry) I came home to a somewhat ill husband and a little boy that was supposed to be asleep. After watching NCIS and NCIS:LA, I saw that the first miner was about to be rescued in Chile. I switched over and sat with my fingers pressed to my lips as I waited in anticipation for a view of this man. I think I cried with the rest of the world as he was lifted from the darkness to take his first breath of fresh air in over two months. I was so happy for this man, his family and the Chilean people.

Because it was so late and I really needed to get some sleep, I laid in the dark and silence thanking God for the rescue effort. I then asked Him what He wanted me to write about today. I just laid there waiting for Him to speak. So many ideas began to run through my mind but none of them were right. While trying to push them away the Lord brought Isaiah 40:31 to mind. "But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; they shall walk, and not faint." Now I am sure that many pastor's will use the scene of the man being lifted from that deep hole for weeks to come, but because this is an adoption blog I am going to take the adoption route.

I began to think about how long those men had been waiting. 69 days! What a long time to be in the ground. I am sure in the beginning they began to wonder if they would ever be found. I wonder if panic began to set in. Did they cry? Did they question God? I can only imagine the amount of strength that was required of them as they waited. As each day passed, did they tire of waiting?

Adoption should be called "The Waiting Game". Waiting is NOT my forte! I am horrible when it comes to waiting! My mother always tells me "If you would just learn patience the first time God teaches you, you would be doing a lot better!" She is so right. I have had to "learn patience" about a billion times. Adoption requires patience. Maybe that is why I am taking the international adoption journey this time.

When it comes to adoption I want things now! The money needs to come now. I want to travel to get my children now. I am the epitome of the "now generation". If you don't know our story I promise to share it one day but I will tell you Scott and I waited 7 years for our first child to come along. We waited a long time. We lost 2 babies and had several failed adoptions during that time. It took me a long time to become what I spent my entire life dreaming I would be. Now it is here, I am a mom and I want a house FULL of children.

Not only do I think about the waiting that is required on our end, but I think about the 147 million orphans that wait everyday. These children wonder if they will be adopted. They wonder if someone will be their mommy and daddy. They want someone to show them that their life has value. Someone to teach them about Jesus. ANYONE to just LOVE them. How long will they have to wait? For some it has only been a couple of months, but for others it has been years. Jesus commanded us to take care of the orphans and the widows. How long will it be before we lift these children out of the darkness of poverty and loneliness?

Waiting is good. Isaiah 40:31 tells us waiting will renew our strength. We will be able to run the race that is required of us without weariness setting in. There is an upcoming race in my life and I will need to strength to run it. Waiting is good. Waiting is Good. WAITING IS GOOD! Maybe I just need to keep repeating that to myself!

Does it make that big of a difference?

"But Jesus said unto them, A prophet is not without honour, but in his own country, and among his own kin, and in his own house. And he could there do no mighty work, save that he laid his hands upon a few sick folk, and healed them. And he marvelled because of their unbelief." Mark 6:4-6a

These verses have been rolling around in my head for the last few days. It has really bothered me that Jesus was not honored in His own town. What bothers me even more is that because of the lack of faith of the people Jesus "could there do no mighty work". Now, I don't believe that Jesus could not do miracles, rather He chose not to do miracles because the people had such little faith. He marvelled at this. I marvel at this.

I mean think about it. These are people Jesus grew up with. These people are His family. They knew He had never sinned. They had heard of the miracles He had performed. They KNEW Him in their heads, but somehow it never reached their hearts. How did they miss it?

Jesus had just healed the woman with the issue of blood in Mark 5. In just one chapter before, we see what total, blind faith can accomplish. I wonder what Jesus was thinking in Mark 6. He had to be remembering the faith of this women. He was able to work an amazing miracle in her life because of her faith. Now he was marvelling at the lack of faith of his own people.

Fast forward 2000 or so years. Here I stand at the beginning of the adoption journey. I have stood here before. The nervousness, uncertainty and fear do not plague me as before. I have walked this road and all the while Jesus has walked beside me. I remember the lessons He taught me the last time. Some I did not learn as well and will need to learn them again. I will question God's plan. I will lack the faith I need on this journey. I am human, but I have a heavenly Father who sees the end. He has placed His hand on my future children. He has set them aside for me to be their mother. HIS ultimate goal is to bring us together. I just have to remember that no matter what storms come HIS goal is clear. I want Jesus to marvel at my faith.

So, does faith really make that big of a difference? Ask the woman with the issue of blood.

Beginning Again

Scott and I have decided it is time to add to our family. We feel that this time the Lord is leading us to adopt internationally. Many people have asked us why we are adopting internationally when there are so many children in the States who need parents. Our first child was adopted through the State's Foster Care System and we have travelled that road before. I most certainly believe that God will lead us down that road again, but the time is not yet here.

We feel the Lord wants us to adopt 2 children. We are hoping for a boy around the age of three (3) and girl as young as possible. I must admit that I continue to struggle daily with the thought of raising $30,000 to $45,000 in order to adopt two (2) children. Some days I try to "remind" the Lord that He owns the cattle on a thousand hills so $45,000 is nothing to Him. Then He reminds me that if we had adopted our first child when I thought the time was right we wouldn't have our son. He wasn't even born yet! It is possible that our children have not yet entered this world.

A friend recently told me that she was reading Corrie ten Boom's book. She said that Ms. ten Boom never asked people for money to support her orphanages. She just laid it at the feet of Jesus and let Him take care of things. That pierced my soul. Oh to have that kind of faith. Thank you Ursula! I think about that every day. I have so much to learn about this thing called faith.